Cultivating a Christ-Centered Marriage: Embracing Commitment and Appreciation

Philippians 2:5 (NLT) teaches us to “Have the same attitude that Christ Jesus had.” Dr. Nick Stinnett’s “Family Strengths Research Project” highlighted that two key ingredients for a thriving family are “commitment” and “appreciation.”

Commitment, while daunting, is essential for success in all aspects of life. It’s not just a one-time decision but a daily choice to uphold our vows, even when faced with disappointment and trials. Marriage, like any relationship, requires ongoing dedication to withstand the challenges and temptations that may arise.

To rejuvenate a struggling marriage, cultivate an atmosphere of appreciation and gratitude towards your spouse. Here are practical ways to enhance your marital satisfaction:

1. Choose to Have Fun
   Fun is a deliberate choice. Decide to create enjoyable moments together, turning ordinary days into opportunities for laughter. Proverbs 17:22 reminds us, “A joyful heart is good medicine.” Make it a goal to bring joy and laughter into your marriage daily.
2. Cultivate Appreciation
   Embrace an “attitude of gratitude.” Identify and communicate the qualities you appreciate about your spouse. Proverbs 16:24 says, “Kind words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body.”
3. Encourage Each Other
   Use your words to build up your spouse. Proverbs 18:21 teaches that our words can either uplift or diminish. Simple, affirming statements can significantly enhance your spouse’s self-esteem.
4. Share Each Other’s Burdens
   Lighten your spouse’s load by taking on small tasks or offering support without expecting anything in return. Acts of kindness, like picking up dinner or giving a backrub, fulfill God’s purpose for marriage as outlined in Galatians 6:2.

Embrace these practices to strengthen your marriage and align your relationship with Christ’s example of love and commitment.